Lord, please guide me as I formally resign from feeling responsible for the internal happiness of others. I am to just love them compassionately.
I cannot make other’s issues mine, not only because it stresses me out, but because it gives others an opportunity to avoid dealing with their issues.
I cannot let a false sense of guilt (that is, my own issues) lure me into responding/reacting to others as their issues become visible. For example, ‘if you were not so frigid then I wouldn’t have to blow up at you, because I feel guilty that I’ve caused your lack of affection.” In other words. I cannot blame myself for others’ deeper, pre-conditioned issues.
Also, I cannot make others responsible for making me ‘happy’ by trying to frame others as the solution for my own issues, nor trying to frame others as the excuse I use to avoid dealing with my own issues. In other words, I cannot throw my own issues onto others, and expect them to solve them!
You love me for who I am. You have forgiven my sins. Eph 4:32, Col 3:13b
Who am I not to forgive myself for not feeling like I’m ‘good enough’? Heb 9:12-14, Rom 5:8
My worth comes from being Your child, not from others being ‘happy’ around me, nor my ‘making’ others happy (including taking on their issues to solve for them, as if I could). Rom 12:3.
I DON’T HAVE TO ‘DO’ TO BE LOVED; I AM LOVED!
Christ has already ‘done’ what is needed! 1Pet 2:9,10
Lord, I offer this Plea of Heart and Humility:
(Am I listening?)
Ps 95:8-10, Eph 4:17-8 –
Do not harden my heart from hearing You
(Who am I listening to?)
Jer 17:5-8, Rom 12:3 -
I trust in You, not the world…
as per Your Word,
(Am I worthy?)
Gen 1:26-7, Mt 12:12, Mt 10:29-31, Lk 12:7, Ps 8:5 and 8:3, 139:13-15–
I am created in Your image, and worth more than animals, in fact just below the heavenly beings
(But what about my sinfulness?)
Ps 103:11,12; 32:5, Acts 2:38, Rom 3:24– You have separated my sins completely from me
(So what do I have to do in return, to keep this blessing?)
Ecc 2:11, 2:1; Phil 3:4+9, Gal 2:21, Col 3:3– I cannot earn Your approval, it is a free gift
Lord, I accept that I am NOT GUILTY!
What is needed to establish guilt? Guilt beyond a reasonable doubt. Given above, there is no doubt that I am NOT guilty (of being unlovable, not good enough, etc.), per Your Word, because of Christ’s obedience and sacrifice!
(1Jn 2:1,2 And i have the best lawyer in history if charged!)
I must decondition myself from self-blaming guilt. The one thing I’m guilty of is having an innately sinful nature, but that’s what Christ redeemed. Rom 3:22-25, 4:6-8.
So I need to stop acting guilty, and acting out of guilt, and instead start loving You and Your people – with a growing sense of compassion, as able…1Jn 1:9…starting with my family!
Thank you, Lord.
Amen.
